October of last year, I left my full-time job at a call center, and decided to stay at home. The year prior to that, I got my first job as a bagger at a grocery store. Five or so months later, I became cashier. Three months later, I left for a full time job at a call center that was offered to me by a friend. Avoiding details, I did not think God was wanting me to be there. I ignored it, and ignored it until I could not stand it. It’s never a good thing to ignore God, LOL.
There are many articles and personal testimonies online that you can find about Stay at Home Daughters. Some positive, some negative. To find some of these written articles please visit my “Stay at Home Daughterhood” board on Pinterest. (Follow me! I tend to follow back. :D)
In order to keep the house looking decent and pleasant for when those who work arrive back home, I try to clean daily. Mostly, this includes sweeping, arranging the pillows, dishes, and dusting. Having work experience, both part and full time, I definitely understand the pleasure of coming home to a clean environment. You feel more ready to relax, and more at ease. Not to mention this is great practice in case I ever marry. :]
My ultimate dream is to own a small homestead and to become as self-sufficient and off the grid as I can. To practice (and pretend) now, I; garden, learn homesteading crafts, read up on self-sufficiency, and become closer to God through His creation. I have a small vegetable patch in the backyard, with some herbs and flowers donning yard now. I, by no means, have a green thumb. But these are the years to practice. I discovered on major problem with my failed gardening attempts was the soil; void of good nutrients, and very clay-like. So now I will learn how to properly build up soil. It also helps to have a very patient, and understanding Dad, who is kind enough to supply what I need to garden.
I also cook. Earlier this year I got my hands on a cast iron pan (bought by my lovely father) and adopted it as my child. (Just kidding..but close to it.) Breakfast, lunch, and dinner can be done on this pan (with minimum cleaning efforts!). Not to mention this pan loves healthy fats, such as coconut oil and lard. 😉 (EVOO is not very heat tolerant, so I stick with it cold.) Back to the subject though! According to the family, I make good sausage gravy, steak, bacon, funnel cakes, liver, and more on this here pan. But I am also handy at baking cakes, cookies, breads, and the like. It is very essential, in my eyes, to get cooking down before you HAVE to do it. I’ve heard too many horror stories in my family to put this skill off and wait.
Home Economics is my favorite “subject.” I am forever delving into books surrounding the subject of domesticated life. My local library has a surprising amount, most of them very old (which is awesome, due to the frugal and old fashioned nature of the book that I love), that I check out once in a while to read through, take notes, and apply to my everyday life.
Inside of home economics is the skill of being handy, creative, and resourceful. To make a home a home.
Sewing, knitting, crocheting, hemming, mending, darning, stitching, flower arranging, painting, sketching, etc. are some of the things you can learn to dress your home in. And these are the things I am trying to make myself become familiar with.
I bought myself a sewing machine (with help from my father and grandparents) a few months ago, and since then have sewn two skirts, and mended and hemmed multiple articles of clothing. I plan to continue with this, and to also learn how to simply make clothes; such as pants, shirts, anything! I am also trying to become skillful with my hand-sewing. I want to make pretty stitches, and then maybe touch embroidery.
I knit and crochet. I also plan on weaving, and making braided rugs. I have a watercolor set and sketch set, to learn how to draw and paint images to darn my home. Continually (with the aid of Pinterest) I am attempting new projects to keep my hands busy.
All these things can help make a home beautiful; made by loving hands, for those whom she loves.
Being a Stay at Home Daughter also means that I have a lot of free time, more so than others at my age. This gives me time to read, study, write, and meditate on God’s word. I figure, that as I get older, less and less time will be given to these things due to other responsibilities. I am studying to be a midwife, for example. Midwives tend to be very busy ladies, and their hours are so wack, it’d be hard to function with other people’s schedules. I believe I would (will!) be thankful that I took the time to study and pursue things that I would no longer be able to do. Another example: I hope to marry and to become a mother someday. When I marry, my husband will come before me. When I have children, they also come before me. I don’t want to grieve and wish I had done more years before. Instead, I am preparing as much as I can now, and allowing God to direct my paths and give me strength to walk them.
It’s not easy being a Stay at Home Daughter.
“Oh, pshaw! As if! All you do is lay on your behind all day, doing willy nilly stuff that doesn’t equate to much in this world.“
“Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon earth, where moth and rust doth corrupt, and where thieves break through and steal: But lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust doth corrupt, and where thieves do not break through nor steal: For where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:19-21
“Uh, is that all? Listen, it sounds like you are doing the exact same thing!“
I believe I am living within God’s will; following out the role He has established for women.
I don’t put a high esteem on monetary value. Tomorrow, our pieces of paper and coins of cheap metal can be worth nothing, and we can all become penniless. First off, our money is worth nothing, literally. It’s the government that gives our money its value. Secondly, we’re so bankrupt as a nation, we are literally running the rat race.
I don’t need half of the “necessary” items of the 21st century. I can go without. God will provide me my needs, and direct my paths to obtain them. I am not going to take unfaithful control, ignore God, and become rich in worldly goods.
Disclaimer: This DOES NOT apply to men. Some of it does, but men: SUPPORT AND PROVIDE FOR YOUR FAMILIES. Nor am I saying it’s wrong to become “rich”.
Right now I am focusing on learning the skills to help me through life. I am also taking this time to get closer and learn more from God. God has given me this time of singleness, and I plan on taking advantage of it.
“So, you’re not going to work at all..ever?”
For money? Regular or supplementary income? I don’t know.
God might guide me to take a job; I may not marry for quite a few years, and find myself in a position to provide for myself. It can be hard in this day in age.
After saying all of this, I’d like to point out that I do have a “job”. Every two weeks, I go out one day of that week work for a wonderful woman (whom I am now learning from and befriending; Titus 2!) go out and clean a house. Basic maintenance. I get nice “spending” money (that I don’t spend), and along the way I learn proper and different ways to clean, and to have fellowship with her. I put those way above money, every time.
And I would also like to point out you can be a Stay at Home Daughter and still have a job, whether full time or part time. Many people put the focus on the job aspect. That’s not the main point! The main point is to remain in your parents house, under the headship and leadership of your father. To learn and live the role that God has established upon women. Genesis 3, Proverbs 31, Titus 2, 2 Peter 3, 2 Timothy 2, 1 Timothy 5 are some given in the Bible.
Some families need to pull together; sometimes, you must do things that may not be desired, but have to be done. No, God will never have you do something that goes against His Word. The Bible does not ever say that a women musn’t work. But the woman’s main focus should be home, and providing for the home within the role God has established; unlike the men’s role.
Some women have chosen to go to college. And with college comes debt. And with debt comes the need for paying it off. With this added debt, the woman responsible will have to pay it off. Even if she were to marry, not all men would be able to take on that burden, for there is a likely chance that they themselves have a debt or two to pay off.
Different situations call for different measures. I am not here to judge and condemn anyone who is not living the life I am living. We are all individuals; part of the body of Christ; dying daily; decreasing so He can be increased! (1 Corinthians 15:31, John 3:30)
But if what I have written is convicting you, then study and pray. Ask the Lord to help you gain understanding, and to do what He wants you to do. To live a Biblical life.
I hope this post has been a blessing to some.
May God be with you throughout your day!